Family ties

marriage is complicated.
when you got married, you thought you life is complete.
instead, you realized they are so many surprises waiting, and you realized it's too late to turn back.
Nope, no turning back.
It's either you bulldozed with passion and strength or you stop and put everything off.

marriage is not just between a husband and wife.
with marriage, there comes in-laws, sons, daughters and all.
it's a community.

one thing about community,
you don't have to like everyone in it.
as long as you could respect each others, that is good enough.
if you love them enough, care for them, always wanted the best for them, you could take the courage to correct them if they are at fault or the least tell them they are in the wrong.
not just by giving your sweet face like everything was okay and talk about them behind their back.
that is sick. very sick.
you communicate when you are in a community.
communicate. community.
do I need to elaborate more about it?
and if you your choose not to communicate, the least you should do is not to say if anything.
if you decided to say it, what's wrong with others wanted to know how could you come up with such conclusion?
verifying is also part of communication.
you communicate by expressing your views, listening to others' in respond to your views, verifying things you don't understand and get verified so people don't misunderstood you and improve oneself if need be.

a husband is responsible to the wife.
just as much parents are responsible to the children.
treat others with respect.
yes, being a husband is tough. you need to be the sole-provider. and you also are responsible on what you wife and children's behaviours. and so, we must know, why Islam puts a husband higher than the parents of the wife.
a husband ought to know how to treat the wife and the children. physically. mentally. emotionally. spiritually.

and definitely. it takes two to tango.
a wife, her responsibilities are all fall upon Allah, Nabi SAW, and her husband.
it's not hard to earn jannah. sounds like. it's not easy too.

syaitan had made his promised to bring all Adam's families to the hell.
syaitan won't let it be easy for any of us.
and when he won, you should be thankful how Merciful Allah is to those who repent.
may Allah accept our taubah.
ameen.