Monday, September 21, 2015

the scroll against the skills

it's the talk in FB lately.. regardings fresh graduates from reputable universities with impressive CGPAs against the fresh graduates from less-reputable in ranking with lower CGPAs being interviewed. the latter grads excelled the interview and secured the job.
kudos to the hirer. 
but then again, how many of the top listed big tycoons willing to settle with lower grades graduates as reflected in their scrolls despites of their higher attitudes and life skills? 
they won't be even considered for an interview during screening stage, hence, attitudes and skills won't matter! what a waste. a better skillful potential employee against booksmart people who struggling to survive in corporate world, the booksmart won.

i knew two different ladies of the age 31, unmarried with different education background.

one owned an engineering scroll from UNITEN, holding a maintenance superintendent post in an oil and gas company, with family just an hour away from the workplace.
the other was a sabahan masseuse that works in kemaman with no family nearby and decided to stop from continuing her diploma because she just wanted to explore places. 

they are ladies, they are single, they are of the same age.

the one with the scroll 'claimed' she was harrassed by her colleague's wife (note: not her colleague, but the wife). i don't know to what extent that she claimed of being harrassed, but one thing i knew, she went to her boss. she said she was distracted and couldn't focus with her work because of the texts from the 'harrasor'. i knew for a fact that the harrasor was harrassing her because this so-called superintendent was naming names to her colleague and his wife. there were minor misunderstanding over the emails, and she's started calling names. and when the wife demanded for an answer, the superintendent went telly-tally to the boss. best is when asked for a meetup, she shut the wife by fabricating lies such 'i won't see you as i've made a report against you and should you want to meet me, will only be with the police attendance'.. when the wife, so-called harrasor agreed to terms, she chickened out and remained silent. apparently no report was made and the lies was just the way she tried to solve the issue! haha!!
at her position, she should be able to work independently. she was supposed to go offshore for an audit visit, but as the chopper was 24hrs delayed due to the weather condition, she did not turn up the next day. there were rumours that due to the bad weather, they might need to take the 9-hr boat to the platform. so, did she decides to cancel her trip at the 11th hour, fearing she needs to be onboard the small smelly fast crew boat?

on the other hand, the masseuse is a different story. she impressed me the seconds she told me that she was a sabahan who love to travel and didn't own a car because walking is a good exercise! not that she couldn't afford it. apparently, she came from a well-being family that owns acres of logging land back home. she was telling me about her  sister's adopted children that she called her children too. those children were abandoned out of wedlocks children that they took up for adoption just because they were human. the last child is now five years old, and the grandma decided to take up custody now that she's growing up and smarter. the grandma was the one who bold enough to say to them 'i do not have any granddaughter' when they wanted to proceed the adoption legally is now seeking custody for the kid.  they are currently on custody battle. she talked with love, passions and she knew what she wants in life. she didn't turn up to any 'authority' like the first girl with the scroll did when being harrased.

she became the talk of distance relatives. they assumed the out of wedlock children are hers as she's in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. she didn't give a demn care. all she knew she love all these innocent children like her very own and people can talk when she knew the truth. she takes risk that might smeared her reputation. but she's determined!

need i to explain more?
employers, it's time to change the mindset. excellence results on paper might be your safeguard when you are calling candidates for interviews. but, you never know what precious jewels you are missing if you are too booked down with paper qualification.

consider attitudes!

will you pick a whiny spoiled brat who will never take risk for whatever reason
a street smart soul who know what he/she wants in life, willing to take risk and independent enough to survive in the wild wild world?

Book Review: Ada Iman, Baru Syok, Ada Fight and #Baby Muslimah

I saw a clip in youtube from Ustaz Khairi on a convert Chinese who was struggling to practice Islam while staying with his parents. However, after four years converted to Islam, he managed to convert another 34 non-muslim back to fitrah.


Bak kata ustaz tu, kita 30thn masuk islam, mana kita? kita 40thn masuk islam, siapa kita?

Malunya pada diri sendiri. Cemburu dengan mereka2.

I wanted to know more and so I decided to buy and read these two books.

1. Baby Muslimah by Felixia Yeap

Felixia Yeap always impressed me. Her beauty, her istiqomah, her style and her spiritual and emotional strength.. salute her in every ways.

I did not read the first book, Amoi Berhijab, but I guess the book of Baby Muslimah is just the same as the dirst one. Not much of a thing, just about her learning to become a convert, learning the baby steps.

An easy reading book, but I guess, it's more of FB shoutouts collections. Not much of details and she could do better with the write-ups should she intends to write more after this.

2. Ada Iman, Baru Syok, Ada Fight by Adam Corrie

I followed Adam Corrie in FB and I salute him for feeling comfortable and freely expressing his love towards his bidadari.

He has his struggles. Being an artist and a convert, banyak betul orang nak berburuk sangka towards him. 

His book is also an easy reading, cute phrases and life story of his. His writing is with nice flow and good storyline. I was inspired reading his book. He lives a sinple life, yet his strong belief and his wants fighting for Islam really makes me envy of him. I want that feeling too.

I prefer this book more than the first one.

jom kita berjuang untuk islam.

Monday, September 14, 2015

four, oredi??

sayang, at times of me writing this, it hasn't past midnite yet.. it is still the day you should be celebrating your birthday.. i haven't post any FB shoutout yet coz i realized i have sooo many things to write and FB shoutout is insufficient.

so, bear with me.
1- you received a wrapped gift and wanted to unwrap it.  i said ok and offered to unwrap it for you. 
'i can do it myself'
you shut me off.
2- you was entering the house, saw the shoes and sandals were everywhere. you arranged it nicely. i asked to confirm who ordered you to do the chore.
'i do myself'
you left me unspoken.
3- you were only three when aboh showed me video of yours changing the bin's plastic at 2am just because you couldn't sleep and asked aboh 'can i help?'
you made me stunned.
4- it was sunday and you were telling me there's homework to be done and i said okay. without asking, you took the book and did the work with no supervision. less that i knew you knew your numbers 1 to 10. 
of all i heard you said,  'done'
you define speechless to me!
5- you wanted to sleep and would crawled on our bed and asked me to recite fatihah and zikir.
'subhannallah, alhamdullillah walailahaillallah allahuakbar'
allahu, sedapnya suara kecil itu berlagu..

sayang, the list goes on and insyaallah, there will surely be more.

you are so smart and we, mama and aboh, must have done something good to be blessed with such a beautiful genius daughter namely you, aivey adela!

you made it easy for us!
waay to easy (ok, despite the potty trained that took years)!!!
thank you sayang.
thank you for made it easy for us.

and so, it's you birthday and many more to come.
something just on top my head for now;
- jadi anak solehah yang bertakwa..
- be just the way you are, be true..
- belajar pandai, beauty will only comes with brain..
- jaga diri, keep your standard high as you already are..
- harga diri, tiada galang ganti. never spoiled it and never allow it to be spoiled. don't cry for things that don't matters 
- stay away from culprits; and yes, for now, on behalf of aboh, he will surely ask you to stay away from any boys!

banyak lagi mama nak pesan.. but i guess, in times, we'll pick up along the lines.. we surely be the bestest friends.

o, maybe i should share some of your aboh's thought.. 
- he said no make-ups (oo, what waste)
- he said don't stay too often at abangs' school (nanti will come the times kawan2 abang memang suka nak tengok adik kawan diorang)
- he said solat sama2, just ikut him
- he said no sexy2 
- he said simpan rambut panjang tapi main wrestling, baru rock
he said a lot, and there'll be more in his list.

he is the best aboh. just the way he takes care of your mom, he will takes care of you at his best.

o, satu lagi tips, nanti la kan, bila dah besar sangat2, bila nak carik hero idaman hati, find someone who put high regards of your intelligence and always proud holding your hands no matter where you guys are. find a hero who will ask you just to 'sit there and be pretty'..
i got mine and fairy tales do come true! masa tu, you can surely understand real meaning of hashtagbahagia.. yup, bahagia!

just don't rush things.
take it easy and slow.

happy fourth birthday, princess!

Saturday, September 12, 2015

Book Review: The Great Wife Aisyah r.a

it's a nice, simple, factual and easy to understand kind of book.

i remember when i wanted to buy this book were for two reasons:
1. it's cheap
2. it's thin

but once i finished reading the book, i was inspired. 
i am a 'realistic' person. i am ambitious, but not a dreamer. and i am learning. i always wanted to improve from
one state to the better. and everyone one the be the great person to their significant ones. but, putting the 'real' me in the prophets ladies generation is surely makes me feel soooo small. i'm emotional, loud, 'psychotic', strong-headed and so many un'kind' negative attitude of a lady in me. but then again, reading the book change my idea of a great wife.

aisyah r.a is just a person, a girl and a wife. she is no different. she was tested and she was the test. she got jealous and she was the person everybody got jealous about. she was the talked and she talked as well. she's the wife of our prophet s.a.w. but she was no different than any wife to any husband.

the book gives the right point that everyone entitled to have feelings, attitudes.. it's all about channelling it the right way, handle it the proper way and believe. 

i would recommend not only any wife who wants to become great read this book.

if you are a girl, unmarried, you'll be inspired to find your man who could guide you.
if you a daughter and a sister, you'll learn how important the support of family in life.
if you are a wife, you'll agree on most of the points highlighted. you may be lackings in lots of things, yet, you can still be great when you want it.
if you are a man and a husband, you'll understand the nature of that lady you are in love with and how to handle that small heart with care.

the book is for everybody.
i would definitely recommend it.

did you knew, even the girl who live in the same roof, share the same bed with rasullullah got jealous, went berserk, being badmouthed and tricked? she's just a girl and most importantly, she's a wife.


Wednesday, September 2, 2015

nastie evil-swagger she!

a wise man once told me never to stoop down to anyone's level who is lower than me. not only that they will drag you down to their stupidity land; they surely will beat you down like hell with their experience. I won't be getting anything but waste hella lots of my precious time and energy. i have lots of other better things to do.

but, i need to have my own peace of mind, and i could only settled once I'm done with giving you, lady, my piece of mind.

and hence, i write
dear missy,

allow me to introduce myself and do judge me as much as you wish once you have completed reading this. and yes, at times of reading this, you have all your rights to keep on believing what a psycho i am as you have claimed i was. you are entitled to your thoughts and I won't deny it. but, you may want to watch your words before you speak your mind. you've messed with a wrong person, or two in this case.. two strong individuals that has been a team for the past fifteen years and going stronger and stronger. big mistake, my dear. 

here we goes.  

before i'm a wife, a mother and a homemaker as i am now, i was a lady of my own and at my peak. don't get me wrong. i am still at the peak. the thing is, i wish to highlight i used to be late twenties, not married and bold, just where you are now. don't tell me to shut up for being clueless, coz I wasn't. I don't know about you, but i was and always am a brainy. i was awarded a scholarship (mind you! not loan!) to further up my studies in the UK right after my SPM result. i went to an international college as young as eighteen, was an engineer student in top engineering school in UK (yes, i'm undermining your background) and was hired immediately as a project engineer upon graduating. the job was demanding, i went to iraq during saddam was very much alive. i stayed nights and nights working on the assembly cabinet hardwiring the scada system for the TLDM KD Perdana. i was up the kenyir hill for as long as i could remember. i was lucky to have great colleagues and bosses who always supporting each other. and mostof time, they did the work and i picked up things slimg the line. i was also a product engineer taking care of high volume manufacturing of well-established hard drives factory. yet, landed back as the application engineer, back to the plants, just because i love the challenges. before i agreed to resign from the career-life, i worked with one of the Fortune500 company and proudly declared i was a 'tremendous' (quoting your immediate superior in describing your quality) employee everytime i was assigned with task. yup, just like you, i joined the 'men's world' too. 
nope, no intention to brag. but, it's a must to highlight before i could further elaborate my intention of writing this to you. yes, YOU! so, do judge but do not doubt my background. if you think i am no match with you, betcha, think again! i am sooo much better than you. 

you are at you peak, and so you think! working in the city, with a good rank, with that pretty face and weird fashion-statement, you thought you have it all. wake up missy. you've been missing so much in your life. like for example, a great company who loves you so much and will stand up for you especially when someone is belittling you for no absolute reason. 

so, why am i sounding like i'm picking fights with you?
you called me names! 
no, no, no. wrong move, biatch!
the old me will go straight up to you, confronted you, slapped you and called you even worse name in the loudest voice i have. i was capable to do that and i still do. 
alhamdullillah, the now-me is more sober and sane and going berserk will just put me three levels lower than i am now, just to be at your par..nope, it's degrading and added no value and I won't stoop that low! I'm a classy of my own.

you need to be told!

i just couldn't compute how your brain works, and i'm not interested to find out. it's sad that you couldn't put the boundary between being professional and emotional. i guess, you are one of many who spoiled the statistics on women climbing the career ladder successfully. you sad thing! you couldn't bring yourself up when you were pulled back. what makes it worse is that you drag your personnal opinions on people and took it as your final bullet.
wrong moves lady! 
not having the chance to know you and just judging by the way you reacted,  you've proven how weak your mind works. at your age, it is going to be lots and lots of burning of the midnight's oil just to get you back in a classy lady track. ho ho, wishing you abundance of luck!

ok, i'm being mean. before i turn into nasty you, i should just stop. i just don't have anything good to say.

but i guess, some points for you to ponder:
1. you don't name names, especially when you never met the person.  calling a stranger a psycho can be your worst nightmare when she turns up to be for real.
2. never give lame excuse or you might just have to swallow your own words.  tasting your own medicine is bitter than you could have imagined! take it from my observation; a stranger with one mutual friend of yours request to add you as her friend and instead of ignoring the request, you have the gut to confront  your friend, telling him 'did you know she requested to add me?' what the heck you expected his reaction would be? he has been friend with you since April this year and she has been his friend for like ummm fifteen years? what were you thinking? and your excuse when he wanted and answer was 'because we haven't met'.. haha.. what a laughing stock you have been missy! you have 1105 people in your friends' list and don't tell us you've met each and every single one of them!!! whom are you kidding? again, you should just ignore the request! 'confronting' him as if it's the biggest issue eva just showed how perasan you are. it's either you think he likes you and will take your side or you like him and want him to know i like you and I'm telling you now but sharing this important decision in my life with you! we believe you did because of the latter. else, what were gou thinking asking him 'so when are you going to like my photo (in fb)?' after you shut off his friend's add request? o my, bimbo! confirmed bimbo especially when 90% of your uploaded photos were all your selfies. we do not have to take a genius to figure that out! pure vain! 
2a. what's in your mind when you only knew the guy less than a week and he wanted to take your picture so that he could matchmake you with his friend, you just gleefully smile and pose for him. you were lucky he was genuine. else, he could just posted it in the guys' closed wassap group and you couldn't imagine what's next. you might think its no harm, but girl, how stupid can you be to protect your own dignity. by doing what you did, should you blame anyone for assuming you are just as desperate old maid as you've reflected in your actions? you give bad names to single ladies out there!  
3. do not shit in your own ricepot! you have issues workwise with your colleague just because he doubted your incompetency (and i have no doubt on himself), you shouldn't relate it with non-work matters. after being claimed of being such a  tremendous employee, you just  fail on credibility. differentiate between professional vs personal. put a big bold line in between. kalau tak, sapa yang malu? mereka dan keluarga mereka!
4. learn the art of apologizing the proper way! and so you are a confirmed bimbo and has no way out when that smartie pants caught you red handed for being stupid. the only way out is to apologize. and you did. hei you, wake up! 

when you seek for forgiveness, you say sorry like you mean it. you explain why you were sorry so that any misunderstanding could be understood. you repent and promise to try as hard not to repeat the mistake. just saying sorry and expecting the other party to forgive you is silly! even my 8yo son knew that's a taboo in seeking forgiveness! or maybe you think you've never sinned? you earn the rights to think whateva you are! but, learn the art! of course forgiveness is something sweet anyone could offer, but if you hold grudges as high as the everest, that would not be an easy okay job!

tuff luck, missy!
it's a long way to go and time is not siding on you!

the bigger bully

p/s: nope, I didn't misspelled the word nastie. it meant to be in such a way, if you got what i mean.