Being True vs Being Kind

I lost to the iblis yesterday 

I knew for the fact, selemah-lemah bisikan adalah bisikan syaitan, and I lost.

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I’m not confused

I wanted to know

being true vs being kind

in the qur’an we are much aware that we have to be true.

the qur’an also preach us to be kind.

but if you have to be true and hurt those that matters, you are not kind.

so, that is not the right way.

but if to be kind, means you have to hide ir nit knowing the truth, is that Islam?

the easiest answer is ‘depends’

people say ‘depends on the situation’

but people never realize how selfish the situation would be.

the situation is when you demand the truth, they shut you off.

when you insist, they yell at you because ‘you force them too’

when you  persistence, they accused you not being the real muslim.

when you explain the fact, they tell you off ‘bukan ke mamaafkan itu lebih baik?’

and ask you to let bygone be bygone.

in the end, you are back to square one.

clueless with what happened and start demanding the truth again.

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so, what weighted more?

1. seeking for true to understand

2. stand for the truth

3. be kind

4. forgive and forget

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Truthfulness: 

"O you who believe! keep your duty to Allah and speak straight, true words." (Holy Quran 33:70) 

"O you who believe, keep your duty to Allah, and be with the truthful people." (9:119)

"Be maintainers of justice and bearers of true witness for Allah, even if it (the truth) goes against your own selves or parents or relatives or someone who is rich or poor." (4:135)

- Clearly, being true is one’s duty to Al-Kholik

Goodness and kindness to others: 

"Allah commands you to uphold justice and to do good to others and to give to the relatives." (16:90) 

"Do good to others, surely Allah loves those who do good to others." (2:195)

-Yes, be kind, but be just too

Consideration and respect for others:

"O you who believe! avoid most of suspicion (against others), for surely suspicion in some cases is sin; and do not spy (into other people's affairs), nor let some of you backbite others." (49:12)

“When you are greeted with a greeting, greet with one better than it, or return it (in the same terms at least)." (4:86)

-Si, if one decided to agree to disagree, why do one talk behind the other and raise the issues at their convenience even after a decade long?

-So, if one returning the same terms, why was the returner got turned away? 

6. Forgiveness: 

"Pardon (people) and overlook (their faults). Don't you love that Allah should forgive you." (24:22) 

"(The dutiful are) . . . those who restrain their anger and pardon people. Allah loves those who do good to others." (3:134)

"Whenever they (true believers) are angry they forgive." (42:37)

"The recompense of evil is punishment like it. But whoever forgives (an evil committed against himself) and amends (matters), his reward is with Allah. . . . Whoever is patient and forgives, that is a matter of great resolution." (42:40, 43)

When the Holy Prophet Muhammad defeated his enemies in Makka and returned to that city as its conqueror, he forgave them in the following words:

"No reproof be against you this day; Allah may forgive you, and He is the most Merciful of those who show mercy." (12:92)

-this is how syaitan won over me

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